How (and Why) to Prioritize Rest in Motherhood

Motherhood is a beautiful, rewarding journey, but let’s be honest—it’s also exhausting. When you’re in the season of raising little ones, rest often seems to take a back seat with so many other things on our plates. The needs of your children, the never-ending to-do list, and the countless tasks of homemaking can make rest feel like a luxury you just can’t afford. But here’s the truth: prioritizing rest is essential to being the best mom, wife, and woman you can be. When we’re rested, we’re more patient, loving, and resilient. 

Today, we’re going to explore why rest matters, how to find moments of calm throughout your day, and ways to incorporate intentional rest into your week as a mom with littles.

Why Rest Matters for Moms

Without rest, our minds, muscles, and eyes weaken and we are humbly reminded that we were not created as machines to continue in motion non stop. Rest is absolutely crucial for both our physical and mental well being. 

In this age of social media and instant gratification, we’ve been taught to place our value in how much we can get accomplished in a single week, day, or even hour. This notion is utterly absurd to be completely frank. The constant hustle mentality is a disease on our generation and it’s up to us to take charge of our own lives and make change where it’s needed. This is definitely one of those areas that mothers especially should be focusing on. And without guilt!

When we neglect rest, our minds and bodies begin to suffer, and that has a ripple effect on every part of our lives. Lack of sleep and downtime can lead to irritability, stress, and even burnout. This impacts not only our physical and mental health but also the way we show up for our families. You simply cannot be the best mother, wife, caretaker, or woman in general if you are constantly putting your own needs last. 

How Lack of Rest Affects the Body and Mind

Physical Health:

Sleep deprivation weakens the immune system, making us more susceptible to colds and other illnesses. It can also contribute to increased inflammation and a greater risk of long-term health issues. 

Mental Health:

When we’re overtired, it’s harder to manage stress, stay calm, and feel positive. Studies have shown that lack of rest can lead to anxiety, mood swings, and depression. When you’re rested, it’s easier to manage the challenges of parenting with patience and a clear mind.

Relationships:

When we’re running on empty, we’re more likely to feel irritated, be short-tempered, or find ourselves overwhelmed by small things. Rest helps us be present with our children and connect with our spouse in positive ways. 

*Rest is not a sign of weakness, it is in fact the very thing that makes us strong and steady.*

Finding Moments of Rest in Your Day

In the busy day of a stay-at-home mom with little ones, carving out rest can seem impossible. However, rest doesn’t always have to mean lying down or taking a nap. Small, intentional moments of rest woven into your daily routine can make a big difference in your energy and mood.

Here are some ways to find those moments, even with small kids at home:

Take Advantage of Nap Time

If your children are young enough to nap, resist the urge to use every moment to catch up on chores. Instead, spend the first 20-30 minutes of nap time doing something that refreshes you—read a good book, sip a cup of coffee, do a quick yoga flow, or simply close your eyes and meditate for a few minutes to savor the moment of calm.

Practice Mindful Breathing

Deep breathing exercises can be incredibly helpful in the middle of a hectic day. Take a few deep breaths whenever you feel tense or overwhelmed to reset and refocus. This will help with sensory overload and does an amazing job of leveling your stress hormone – even if only for a little bit. 

Get Outdoors

If possible, step outside as often as possible with your kids. A long walk soaking up the sunshine and fresh air works wonders on the mind, body, and soul. Even a short walk in the fresh air can be enough to lift your spirits and refresh your mind. Outdoor play for children is essential to their wellbeing so you can also rest in knowing that this time is incredibly beneficial to all of you! Make this activity a part of your everyday life and enjoy the positive effect it will have on your life. 

Use Screen Time Wisely

I do try to limit screen time as much as possible but maybe not entirely for the reasons you’ve always been told to. Yes, limited screen time is best for well rounded children who don’t have mush for brains. However, the limited screen time comes with other benefits as well. Personal gain type of benefits if I’m being honest. So, here’s the deal: if your children don’t often get screen time – when they do it will be a real treat and actually keep them engaged. Wild, right?! 

That said, if you have older kids who you feel are ready to enjoy an age appropriate show for just a little while, use that time as a mini-rest period. Read, stretch, or simply take a few minutes to rest and recharge while they’re occupied. I like to take this time to sit outside with a cup of coffee on the front porch and listen to the sounds of nature. I can still see them perfectly through our screen door but I can enjoy the sounds, sights, and smells of the great outdoors. This is one thing that truly does help to fill my cup as a mom with littles at home. 

Delegate Small Tasks

If your children are old enough to help, encourage them to participate in simple tasks like tidying up toys or setting the table. As young as the age of 3, my children have all been very enthusiastic little helpers when I asked for assistance. They love feeling needed and being given age appropriate responsibilities. Encourage them to take charge with whatever activity they have been assigned. This can give you a few moments to sit down or catch your breath if needed!

Making Time for Intentional Rest

While quick moments of calm are helpful, we also need deeper periods of rest to truly recharge. Planning for this kind of rest can feel daunting, but it’s achievable with some intention and creativity. Here’s how to make a plan for regular, scheduled rest each week.

1. Create a Weekly “Me Time” Routine: Try to schedule at least one longer period of rest each week. This could be an hour on Sunday morning to read and journal, a Saturday evening bath, or a quiet walk on your own after dinner on Tuesdays. Whatever it is, get with your husband to ensure this time can be reserved for some self care and literally put it on your calendar. *MOM IS OFF DUTY*

Every busy mother deserves these pockets of time to take care of no one but herself. It is absolutely essential to being the best parent and wife for your family. 

2. Swap Kid-Free Time with a Friend: If you have a friend with young children, consider trading child care once a week. Even an hour or two can make a huge difference in how rested and refreshed you feel. This mental rest period is a good way to feel refreshed and get a little break when needed. 

3. Make Bedtime Sacred: Many of us tend to stay up late to get some “me time,” but this can backfire if it cuts into our sleep. Try to wind down earlier in the evening so that you’re getting enough sleep at night. As someone who has tried her damnedest to squeeze a few more activities in after dark and shirk my precious hours of sleep in the process – it is simply not sustainable and I don’t recommend! You cannot be your best self if you’re constantly sacrificing your sleep. 

4. Ask for Help When You Need It: If you have family nearby or a partner who can help with childcare, don’t be afraid to ask for their support. A short break to rest can make you a more patient and happy mom and wife. As mothers, every single day is hard work. This is not something you should downplay to those who care about you. Let them help! Those few trusted family members will enjoy the quality time with your children and you get invaluable rest time. Win – win! 

Easy Ways to Incorporate Rest Into Your Daily Life

Sometimes, even simple changes can make the biggest difference. Here are some quick, easy ways to add rest and relaxation into your day-to-day life as a mom and homemaker.

1. Morning Quiet Time: Set your alarm 10-15 minutes earlier to enjoy a peaceful start to your day. Sip your coffee, read something inspiring, do some journaling or just sit quietly before the morning chaos begins.

2. Take Five Minutes to Stretch: Stretching can relieve tension in your body, improve circulation, and bring a sense of calm. Find a few moments each day to do some light stretching, whether it’s during your kids’ snack time or right before bed. You can even encourage your children to join you in this activity. I’ve found that if I start to move my body by stretching or dancing – my kids are quick to follow my lead! This can be a great way to incorporate rest and family bonding at the same time. 

3. Play Soothing Music: Soft music in the background can create a calming atmosphere in your home. Whether you’re folding laundry or cooking dinner, gentle music can help you feel more at peace. It will also encourage a bit more calm from your children as the learn to read the room and respond to the atmosphere of your home. 

4. Use Aromatherapy: Essential oils like lavender, chamomile, and eucalyptus can bring calm to your environment. Try diffusing them or adding a few drops to a warm bath.

5. Take a Power Nap: If you can, fit in a short nap when your children are sleeping or playing. Even a 10-20 minute nap can boost your energy and mood and help with mental clarity to get through your day. 

6. Enjoy an Evening Tea Ritual: At the end of the day, settle down with a cup of herbal tea. This small act can help you unwind, especially if you set aside screens and focus on the warmth of the moment.

7. Journal for a Few Minutes Each Day: Writing down a few thoughts or feelings can help you process your day and put things into perspective. I personally do this in the form of a gratitude journal. I keep it very simple and it doesn’t take more than a few minutes, but it does provide a lovely moment of reflection on both the good and bad parts of my day – while emphasizing the good. Even if the day has been a complete sh*t storm, I’m sure you can find something to be grateful for!

You can find more ideas and in depth thoughts on these simple daily rituals in this post: How to Romanticize Your Life as a Stay At Home Mom. 

Making Rest a Priority in the Long Term

It may feel selfish to focus on your own rest, but remember that rest is essential for your well-being—and your family’s. When you prioritize this time for yourself, you’re modeling self-care for your children and nurturing your own mind and body to be the best mom and wife you can be.

**Remember:** Rest doesn’t mean you’re taking a break from being a mom. Instead, it’s a way to recharge so that you can give your best to the people you love. Embrace rest as a gift to yourself and your family, because a rested mom is a more joyful, patient, and present mom.