The Art of Intentional Homemaking and Living Slowly | Homemaking 101

There’s something deeply nourishing about choosing to live slowly in a world that constantly tells us to rush. Intentional homemaking isn’t about aesthetics; though those can be lovely!

It’s about crafting a life that reflects your values, your pace, and the heart of your family. It’s about slowing down enough to notice your child’s laughter echoing down the hallway, the scent of fresh bread in the oven, or the way afternoon sunlight dances across the floor. These moments are the soul of the home and we should seek them out as often as possible.

As a mother and homemaker, I’ve realized that peace isn’t found in having it all done (which is impossible, by the way)—it’s found in how we do the things that matter most. There’s a quiet beauty in creating a home where love lingers, where the light moves gently through the windows, and where the days unfold with calm, purpose, and presence.

After all, the entire tone of your home and the childhood memories of your babies is ultimately set by YOU! This realization can be slightly intimidating but mostly a beautiful way to think and live your life.

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What Is Intentional Homemaking?

It means asking yourself:

• Does this serve us well?
• Does this bring peace or stress?
• What is most important right now, in this season?

And importantly: Am I caring for myself as I care for others?

As homemakers, we tap into our unique natural tendencies to create a home environment that is loving, nurturing, supportive, and educational.  – Janet Quinlan

The Home as a Sanctuary

Your home doesn’t need to be perfectly clean or Instagram-worthy to be a sanctuary. What it does need is love, order, and intention. Learn to romanticize your life as much as possible. This is the key to finding joy, even in the mundane.

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Let the Fresh Air In

Each morning, one of the first things I do is open a window—even just a crack—and let the air flow through. It wakes up the house and sets a calm tone for the day. There’s a natural rhythm in the way a home breathes when you let the outside in. Listening to the birds sing their morning song, or the rain falling on gloomier days can be so grounding and good for the soul. Even in the winter, I’ll open a window for five minutes. The air is crisp, cleansing, and symbolic—a fresh start.

Keep It Tidy, Not Pristine

There’s a difference between tidy and sterile. I aim for tidy—spaces that are cared for, where everything has a home, but where life is still lived. It’s okay if toys are out during playtime or if there’s a baking mess in the kitchen. It’s also okay if your lawn isn’t pristine with professional landscaping. (see below of an area that has been thoroughly neglected since having my summer baby last year). However; I have found that a tidy space helps me think clearly and makes our days flow better.

I often do a 10-minute “reset” after each major transition in the day—after breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We call it the “10 minute tidy” and the whole family gets involved. It keeps messes manageable and helps even young children learn responsibility and the joy of caring for their home.

Seasonal Simplicity

Decorating with the seasons doesn’t have to mean bins of decor. A vase of tulips in the spring, a bowl of pinecones in the fall, or a branch of greenery on the table can make your space feel alive and aligned with nature. Children also love observing these small changes, and it builds in them a respect for the passing seasons and the world around them.

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Admittedly, this is also an area where you will have to let go of perfection. The children will inevitably want to be fully involved in the decorating. Yay, memories!

Daily Rhythms That Serve the Family

Children don’t need rigid schedules, but they thrive on predictable rhythms. And so do we. A good rhythm brings calm, reduces decision fatigue, and makes space for joy and spontaneity. Having a daily routine that best suites both your family members and yourself will be key to this way of life. 

Here’s a peek into what our days often look like—just for inspiration. If you find something useful to you, (as always) take what applies and leave the rest! Example rhythm:

Morning: Set the Tone for your day

You can find a more in depth post about Morning Routines for SAHMs here. I give tips and inspiration for actionable ways to improve your morning, no matter what season of motherhood you’re currently in.

**Mom tip: If you haven’t already gotten ready for the day, a morning bath for the kids is a great time to fix your hair or apply some minimal makeup while the littles are content in the tub. I have also used this time to clean the bathroom or organize my closet while they play.

Midday: A Gentle Reset

• Lunch and books – We often read a story at the table or afterward on the couch or front porch.
• Nap/Quiet time – Essential. Even my older child enjoys rest time with quiet toys or books. I use this time for my own mental and physical reset: a cup of tea, light stretching, whatever Mom hobby I’ve been engrossed in lately, or just reading something nourishing for myself. For some ideas on feminine hobbies for SAHMs check out this post!
• Prep for dinner – Chopping veggies or putting something in the slow cooker early helps the evening go more smoothly.
• If I haven’t gotten my workout in yet then this is when I’ll squeeze in some movement.
• After nap it’s unstructured free play for the kids and I will do a bit of tidying around the house. I try to get outside as often as possible during this time if the weather allows. We all need the extra dose of sunshine and fresh air around this time of day – it’s so good for the soul.

Evening: Winding Down Slowly

• Family dinner – Simple meals around the table. Phones away. Candles lit in winter. I have these battery operated candles in my wall sconces and they are so lovely. I set them on timers each fall and use them all winter.
• Tidy up together – Make it a part of your evening/after dinner routine. Set a time for 10 minutes and knock out the “10 minute tidy”. Once it becomes a part of the daily routine, the entire family will benefit from it!
• Evening rhythm – Bath, books, cuddles, and soft lighting. We try not to turn on the TV in the evening unless it’s a special movie night.
• Mom’s downtime – This is when I can relax a bit and reflect on my day if needed. In the summer, I like to sit outside if it’s still light out and read or just listen to nature. It’s incredibly restorative and helps my body to wind down after a long day. Then I usually spend time with my husband before bed.

For more on how to schedule your day to work the best for you and your family, check out these posts!

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Caring for Yourself: How to Have a More Fulfilling Day

A slow life that doesn’t include care for the homemaker (you) is still a fast track to burnout. You matter. Your health—emotional, physical, spiritual—matters!

In fact – dare I even say it – YOU are the most important person in your house to take care of. And yes, I know how that sounds. But truly, if mom is having a bad day, it will seep into every aspect of your home. For better or worse, YOU set the tone of your home. YOU are the biggest influence on your children. This is not a role to be taken lightly.

Here’s how I incorporate self care into the natural flow of our days:

1. Daily Walks in Fresh Air

2. Less Technology, More Presence

Phones are a tool, not a lifestyle. I keep mine in a drawer or charging station during most of the day and only bring it out if I NEED it for something. It’s helped me stay focused and present, and it keeps the energy in the home calmer. I also set limits on social media apps and take regular “screen Sabbaths.” If you need some assistance in this department, check out this post: How to Live a More Intentional Life by Doing a Digital Detox

For the kids, we have set times for TV, and we stick to it. It’s pretty minimal. Some days are screen-free altogether, and they always surprise me with how creative and content they become when given the space.

Don’t let your kid become an “I-Pad kid”. It’s not a complimentary term. Kids need and crave connection. With people. With the real world around them. Technology is never the answer to boredom! Imagination is. Nature is. Connection is.

For further insight on helping your kids have a memorable childhood full of growth and connection, I highly recommend the books The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt and Until the Streetlights Come On: How a Return to Play Brightens Our Present and Prepares Kids for an Uncertain Future by Ginny Yurich.

3. Music as a Mood-Setter

Music is powerful. It can shift the atmosphere of your home in seconds. If I am in a funky mood or preemptively want to set a calm or uplifting mood, I’ll find the bluetooth speaker and turn on a bit of music in the background.

The musical tastes in our household are quite varied but as a general idea, see below!

• “Oldies” such as Rosemary Clooney, Frank Sinatra, Ella Fitzgerald, etc during early morning or quiet times
• Feel good or more upbeat tunes while cooking or cleaning. In our house it could be anything from Raggae to 90’s country. The kids like Raggae so much I bought them the Bob Marley Yoto card.
• Classical or oldies again in the evening for a bit of calm before bed.

It fills the quiet in a gentle, meaningful way—and even helps my kids associate different times of day with different moods.

4. Nourishing Foods and Simple Routines

Cooking from scratch, when possible, is one of the most loving things you can do for your family—and yourself. It doesn’t have to be gourmet. Even simple soups, fresh bread, and roasted veggies can feel like a feast when prepared with care. I won’t lie, this is the part of homemaking I struggle with most.

We have slowly transitioned to a mainly “ingredients household” with minimal processed or frozen options but I have still not perfected baking a perfect loaf of sourdough bread. And that is ok! In time, I know I’ll get there. This is one of the principles of slow living. Giving yourself grace, as needed!

I also keep meals uncomplicated during busy seasons: oatmeal or scrambled eggs for breakfast, sandwiches and cut veggies for lunch, and a one-pan dinner or crockpot meal in the evening. Less time cooking = more time enjoying.

5. Intentional Solitude

Moms don’t get many quiet moments. But when they do come—nap time, early morning, or bedtime— I use them well. I might journal, sip a hot drink, sit outside and enjoy the sounds and smells of the current season, or just sit in stillness. No phone. No noise. Just me, listening and recharging. Perhaps it’s the introvert in me but this time is absolutely precious and wholly necessary for me to be my best self.

Here are a few more resources for you to help you prioritize yourself when needed!

How and Why to Prioritize Rest In Motherhood

Self Care for Mothers – A Realistic Guide For Busy Moms

Intentional Homemaking Creates the Space to be Fully Present

When we rush through our days, we miss the small moments that hold the most meaning. The giggle as your toddler runs down the hall in mismatched socks. The way the kitchen smells after baking banana bread (one of the few “breads” I actually have perfected). The warm weight of a child resting against you after a long day.

These things are what makes life worth living. These things are what to focus on when you’re feeling overwhelmed or like you’re not enough. We’ve all been there. But just remember those little things that make it all worth it!

Homemaking isn’t glamorous. It’s rarely applauded. But it is profoundly meaningful.

It’s the quiet art of shaping not just a house, but a life. And not just your own life either, but that of every member of your home and family. It all matters more than you might realize.

And when you approach it with intention—when you live slowly, breathe deeply, and let your days unfold naturally—you discover that you’re not just making a home. You’re establishing a lifestyle.

See also: How to Romanticize Your Life as a SAHM

Begin Simply, Don’t Overthink It

You don’t have to overhaul your life to begin intentional homemaking. You can start right now. Open a window. Turn on a calming song. Light a candle. Clear one corner of the counter. Step outside and feel the breeze.

Start small. Let it grow and allow your habits to build on themselves each day!

There is no such thing as a perfect homemaker. However, successful homemakers simply have a mindset of being more intentional in their homes and with their families. I think it’s really just knowing that there will always be new things to overcome and improvements to be made.

Your daily tasks will change with the seasons you are in – both in life in general (the season of babies will not last forever!) and in the annual cycles of nature. Embrace each new seasonal rhythm as they come. Work on your homemaking skills as your interests grow. The next thing will always come to you eventually! 

Because when the home is calm, the family is calm. And when the mother is cared for, the whole household is steadied by her peace.

Until next time, friends! I hope you have a peaceful day and see a few more of those little glimmers of happiness this week in your home.

Olivia

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